December 17, 2013
Do electronic devices of today such as Smart Phones, and Tablets, take our focus from those who are physically with us? Are Electronics devices and Social Media an addiction? If you find that you feel like you have to check your messages as soon as you wake up, or before you go to sleep and several times in between, it may be time to take a step back and ask yourself why you feel the need to do this. The problem is when it becomes an obsession. I’ve always been told and found it to be true in most instances, that everything in moderation is OK; it becomes a problem when in excess. When you find that you feel like you have to check your Facebook for messages or see if you have a text too often, it could be time to take a look at how much time you are spending communicating on Social Media sites that could be spent on face to face connections.
This past summer, I attended a picnic outing at a park with my family in Pennsylvania. I was watching the children and their parents and I noticed something that was disturbing. The children were all playing on the playground equipment, getting their faces painted and eating their lunch. The parents were there but I saw many parents glancing back and forth between their cell phones, and their children. They were not connecting with or focusing on their children because their attention was divided. What is this saying to our children and grandchildren? They deserve our full attention. The children and the parents were missing out.
Once at my husband’s family Christmas most people had their cell phones out during the whole celebration! Two cousins were talking and one said, “oh no my phone is dead and the other’s response was now how am I going to talk to you! They were only two feet away from each other! My husband wanted to have everyone leave their phones in a basket as they came into the house the next year but we were afraid that someone would be offended and let the idea drop
Have you ever gone out to a nice dinner and had the person you were dining with either answer their phone or they were texting or socializing on a Social Media site? That is frustrating, disappointing and even hurtful. It doesn’t make the company you are with feel special or that you what they are saying is important or has worth to you.
Technology is a wonderful thing. We have come so far in my lifetime. I know that the Social Media’s can be very helpful. We can learn so much. Social Media helps businesses grow, and friendships and relationships to strengthen. I am in touch with many family members and friends that without a Social Media I would not be. There are many positives, I only fear that we will lose our personal touch; we need to remember how to communicate face to face so that the future generations will not suffer and be missing those communication skills.
The next time you go out to dinner, try putting your smart phone away. If it’s important, they will leave a message, which you can check after dinner. Enjoy the time you have with the people or person you are with. They should have your full attention, and you should have theirs.
Mark your Calendars for these Events:
Harter Park - The spectacular light display, which boasts over four million lights, with Additional lights added each year, will be open nightly through New Year’s Eve. Hours are 6 to 10 p.m. Vehicles may enter from either drive off of Jackson Pike on the east end of the park only.
There is no admission fee; however, donations will be accepted at the gate. Donations will benefit local groups who have volunteered to welcome visitors and also to continue the Christmas display in the future.
“We think too much and feel too little. More than machinery, we need humanity. More than cleverness, we need kindness and gentleness.” - Charlie Chaplin (1889-1977) Comedic Actor, Filmmaker, Writer
“Kindness is the golden chain by which society is bound together.” - Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe (1749-1832) German Writer, Artist, And Politician
Victoria Horsley is a volunteer citizen columnist who serves Daily Advocate readers weekly with her community column Union City News Reel. She can be contacted with local events, news, birthdays or anniversaries at firstname.lastname@example.org or by calling 937-467-3945. Viewpoints expressed in these opinion pieces are the work of the author. The Daily Advocate does not endorse these viewpoints or the independent activities of the author.