I was recently thinking about how very fortunate I am to be able to spend time with my parents. I realize that not everyone have this privilege. I have always been close to my parents. I didn’t like to be away from them as a child. I just wanted to be with them.
I am a grandmother now and have been for almost 14 years and I still cry when I leave my parents. I live about six hours away from them and I visit as often as I can but it is never enough.
Maybe part of that is that when I am with them, I feel just like I did when I was a little girl. I feel trust and respect, and very loved. I will admit that I am a little spoiled, but so is my only sister, Sandy. Mom makes all my favorite foods and desserts, she even turns my bed down for me! Daddy pours me coffee and always tries to get me to take a nap. Mom doesn’t encourage the nap, since she knows that I wake up crabby because I feel that I have wasted time. Some things never change.
A close friend of mine recently went through a divorce that came as a shock to her. Through her grieving she reflected that she missed her parents deeply. On one hand she was glad that they didn’t have to see her suffering but on the other hand she would give anything to be able to talk to them and for them to hug her until she was through her grieve. I wish she could have that also. It made me realize how very blessed that I am.
Not everyone has parents that they can feel that way about and that is very sad. A good parent puts their children and their feelings and interest before their own.
They sacrifice everything they have to make sure that their children go without nothing. They will divide food to make sure that no child goes hungry, stating that they themselves just don’t feel like eating and are not hungry even though their stomachs are rumbling with hunger. The children will have new clothes and shoes while the parents do not. The parent will work as many jobs as is needed to provide for their children and never complain.
A good parent listens their children, and talks to them. They teach them to dream and to love themselves and respect others. Once you are a parent, you always put your children and their lives before your own wants and needs because what is best for them should be what you want and need.
When you choose to bring a child into the world be sure that you are ready to be parent, a good parent. A child is a blessing and a joy like no other.
I am blessed.
If you’re a good parent, see the changes that are happening in your kids. Keith Emerson
You’ll be a good parent when you’re ready to no longer be selfish. Until I was about 35, it was all about me. I look back and I’m astonished at how I lived my life - it was totally self-involved. Lauren Holly
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Victoria Horsley is a volunteer citizen columnist who serves The Daily Advocate readers weekly with her community column Union City News Reel. She can be contacted with local events, news, birthdays or anniversaries at firstname.lastname@example.org or by calling 937-467-3945. Viewpoints expressed in these opinion pieces are the work of the author. The Daily Advocate does not endorse these viewpoints or the independent activities of the author.