The Beatles got it right with their song “All You Need is Love.” Everybody wants to be loved, everybody needs love and in truth everybody is loved. But why don’t we always feel loved and why is it so hard to find the love we crave?
Most of us equate love with romance, but in tennis love means nothing. Remember the old Love Tester Arcade Machines that you would see at fairs, arcades, restaurants, etc.? For ten cents one could test their appeal by gripping the handle and waiting for a “state of the art” analysis. Those meters segmented love nine times. For nostalgic reasons I list the levels: blah, clammy, harmless, mild, wild, burning, passionate, hot stuff and uncontrollable.
It’s not surprising we’ve liken the meaning of love to passion or enchantment. All our lives we’ve been subtly imbued to movies, novels, magazines, and television programs that escalate love to an uncontrollably intense reflex leaving us powerless against affairs of our heart. But even though such extreme feelings can exist and may be the dawn of genuine love, it is unrealistic to assume this level of intensity will remain forever. This type of love is called Eros love, which means desire and longing and it’s actually a selfish love. Eros love is usually born out of an attraction or some self-benefit such as a remedy against loneliness therefore when the intensity diminishes the individual tends to fall out of love.
There are other types of love such as the love of a friend, sibling or parent. Such love is loyal, platonic and usually unconditional. Then there is the Agape love which is a selfless love. With Agape love one may not feel loving towards someone even though they show them love, which is not hypocritical, but supreme, because it’s putting love in action in order to spawn the feelings of love.
Our society typically interprets love as the romantic type therefore it’s really no wonder why people are afraid to verbalize their feelings or that occasionally individuals take a friendship or family connection to a forbidden level.
So often we are actually lonely when we feel the most unloved, but such feelings deceive. We are all loved, by family, friends and most importantly our creator. The best way to overcome loneliness is refocus your energy on others by volunteering at your church. Love exists in the unity of community. Those who are home-bound can reach out to others by becoming a pen pal to a prisoner or an earthly guardian angel to a youth.
FareFest is next Saturday from 2 to 5 p.m. Pres-ale tickets can be purchased by calling (937) 526-3020.
Mark your calendar for Aug. 25 when the Versailles Museum will be having a “School Day” at 1 p.m. They have invited the area’s retired teachers to share memories from their days in the classroom. The public is invited to come and share their pictures and stories. There will be homemade dessert and coffee, too.
Happy birthday to Laura Beireis, Barb Berger, Mary Jo Deal, Cheryl Huelskamp, Barb Siegel, Cheryl Magoto, Cindy Miller, Lois Knapke, Kelly Francis, Stacy Dirksen, Erin Rismiller, Chris Kemper, Ryland Breeding, Megan Wuebker, Dave Huelskamp, Lisa Voisard, Dane Nagel, Pete Magoto, Jenni Johns, and Dan Bensman. Happy anniversary wishes to Audra and Mitch Wietholter (11), Diane and Mike Magoteaux (17), Brenda and David Pohl (20), Melanie and Jim Huffman (27), Karen and Jim Kelch (36), Jennie and Ted Baltes (40), and Collette and Lester Kueterman (52). Congratulations to Erica and Bob Menke who were married last weekend.
Healing prayers and get well wishes to Marilyn Barga, Lisa Zumberger, Bob Homan, Gloria Miller, Hayden Shields, Ruth Hoelscher, Verena Bohman, Marlene Ward, Tim Magoto, Annabelle and Basil Subler, Fred Bruns, Marilyn Barge, John Griesdorn, Payton Platfoot, Al Bliss, Kelli Berger, Ed Grilliot, Virginia Pittsenbarger, Cindy Brumbaugh, Chris Kemper, Robert Hartzell, Joyce Lease, Marlene Zumberger, Dori and Dale Armstrong, Irene Broering, Joe Slonkosky, Jack Borgerding, Terry Black, Shirley Strunks, Peaches Boyer, Jean Hartzell, Joyce Marshall, Iris Nickol, Donna Black, Georgie Kemper, Rusty Whittaker, Peg Bundy, Brain Voisard and all those dealing with one of life’s challenges, as well as the hospitalized and homebound in need of our prayers but not mentioned by name.
Sincere sympathy to the family and friends of former mayor of Versailles Pat Hiatt, Walter “Bud” Wirrig, Eleanora Zumwald, and Angela Broerman also remembering the lives of Nettie Cramer, Rev. Leo Sheffel, Ruth and Harold Knapke, Alice Kissinger, Carl “Hoppy” Schrader, Butch George, Shirley Hartzell, David Armstrong, Edith Richhart, LuEmma Horine, Jan Francis, Jeff Moorman, Mary Hartzell, Esther Thompson, Joan Selzer, Dale Gariety, John Voisard, Wilma Francis, Viola Barga, George Wooley, George Mangen, Maria Dircksen, Esther Pitsenbarger, Velma Billiter and Lawrence Grewe as well as those not mentioned by name as the anniversary of their passing nears.
“Let all that you do be done in love.” ~1 Corinthians 16:14
“Loneliness and the feeling of being unwanted is the most terrible poverty.” ~Mother Teresa
”Reach out and touch someone.” ~AT&T Advertising slogan
Kathy Magoto is a volunteer citizen columnist, who serves The Daily Advocate readers weekly with her weekly Versailles community column. She can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org or at 526-3798. Feel free to contact her with Versailles news and tidbits. Viewpoints expressed in these opinion pieces are the work of the author. The Daily Advocate does not endorse these viewpoints or the independent activities of the author.