Last updated: July 10. 2014 4:14PM - 399 Views
By Kathy Magoto

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To everything there is a reason, that’s a given, but it doesn’t have to be reason enough for quitting, giving up or staying stuck. The blame game makes sure nothing ever changes in a life except the excuses and there can be a bevy of excuses to cover any singular circumstance.

The blame game is a vicious circle, enabling the players to remain victimized in every situation that they are unable to assume responsibility. One can never become whom they want to be if they keep blaming everyone else for who they are now. Relationships and all other circumstances cannot change because they gave their power away when they passed the buck or blamed others for their troubles.

If the blame game were a board game each player would draw a “situation” card followed by an “excuse” card preventing the player from advancing from his present location. The outcome of the game would be predictable, beginning and ending on the same spot. Lots of moving around the board but always landing back on the same spot.

In order to progress from the same spot one would have to learn from their past choices and decide to accept responsibility to change their actions in order to affect a more favorable outcome. No longer playing the victim they would begin to realize that the moment they actively assume responsibility for everything in their life becomes the moment they can change anything in their life.

Have you noticed life has a way of giving us the same lessons over and over until we learn from them? If you start a new diet, without a doubt, a co-worker or neighbor will bring you a tempting dessert. Or if you start a new exercise program, undoubtedly, an unforeseen conflict makes it impossible to keep to a schedule. When these things happen don’t get discouraged or give up instead realize that you are being tested. May you pass with flying colors!

Upcoming events:

Tonight’s entertainment “Lone Raven” starts at 7 p.m. at the fountain square gazebo. For the best seat bring your lawn chairs. Also tonight there will be “Entertainment Trivia” at the Vet’s Club Bunker.

Saturday, St. Denis Parish and the Knights of Columbus of Versailles will host a Family Day to celebrate 175 years and 100 years respectively. There will be soft drinks, beer, juice, hot dogs, burgers, Pork loin dinners (pre-sale) and cotton candy. There will also be entertainment for children, corn hole games and a single elimination volleyball tournament from 6 to 11 p.m. Mass will be celebrated in the hall at 4 p.m. More information can be found at www.stdenishf.org.

Mark your calendar for Darke County Relay for Life event held July 18 beginning at 6 p.m. with an auction at 7:30 p.m. and entertainment by Tyler and Mason DeMange beginning around 8:15 p.m. The “Remember/Luminary” ceremony begins at 10 pm. Then on July 19 from 8 to 10 p.m., you can listen to music performed by Ron and Elaine Marshall downstairs in the Bunker (Vet’s Club).

Happy birthday wishes to Randy Breaden, Landon Smith, Beth Keihl, Michelle Bradham, Mona Lou Blakeley, Jennifer Stewart, Steven Broerman, Stacy Yagle, Lori Hemmelgarn, Scott Gerling, Cynthia Vogel, Kathy Pinchot, Mark Pleiman, Tricia McConnaughey, Donna Kissinger, Sharon DeWeese, Kelly Dapore, Marilyn Monnin, Kim Custenborder, Theresa Turner, Jack Monnin, Patti Gerling, Jan Turner, Kay Sanders, Keith Rawlins, Ralph Dapore, Sharon Henry, Dan Smith, Shelley Gigandet, Stacie Dirksen and Patty Jenkinson. Happy anniversary wishes to Angela and Tom Moeder, Sandy and Tony Rose (21), Barb and Doug Shappie (41), Shirley and Robert Magoteaux (44), Merilyn and Ed Borchers (52), and Marlene and Urban Zumberger (57).

Hello to Kelli Berger, John Snyder, Kim Bohler, Judy Koogler, Carlene Beisner, Bob Robinson, Ginger Gehret, Gary Cohee, Heather Brown and Julie Heuing.

Healing prayers and get well wishes to Virginia Pittsenbarger, Cindy Brumbaugh, Robert Hartzell, Joyce Lease, Marlene Zumberger, Dori and Dale Armstrong, Paul Francis, Joe Slonkosky, Terry Black, Shirley Strunks, Peaches Boyer, Joyce Marshall, Iris Nickol, Donna Black, Georgie Kemper, Jean Hartzell, Peg Bundy, Brain Voisard, Rusty Whittaker and all those who are dealing with one of life’s challenges, as well as the hospitalized and homebound in need of our prayers but not mentioned by name.

Sincere sympathy to the family and friends of Audrey Emerick, June Brumbaugh, Francis Shappie, Tina Gaier, Doris Hoying and Edward Schulze, also remembering the lives of Tom Henry, Esther Bulcher, Joshua Francis, Tom Batty, Norma Purpus, Sue North, David McMaken, Ruthanna Oliver, Glenn Kueterman, Bill Custenborder, Paul Ahlers, Ken Schafer, Riley Brandon, Wally Pleiman, Dorthea Shappie and Tom Cordonnier, as well as those not mentioned by name as the anniversary of their passing nears.

He is foolish to blame the sea who is shipwrecked twice.” ~Publilius Syrus

A man may fail many times, but he isn’t a failure until he begins to blame somebody else.” ~John Burroughs

Self-pity creates the victim mentality.” ~C. Edwards

Kathy Magoto is a volunteer citizen columnist, who serves The Daily Advocate readers weekly with her weekly Versailles community column. She can be reached at magmon1@embarqmail.com or at 526-3798. Feel free to contact her with Versailles news and tidbits. Viewpoints expressed in these opinion pieces are the work of the author. The Daily Advocate does not endorse these viewpoints or the independent activities of the author.

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