All of us have met people of which we had a great deal in common. We find ourselves becoming friends, making time for one another, engaging ourselves in long chats, perhaps going out to eat or shopping, golfing or trying new things at their recommendation. The acquaintanceship is refreshing, joyful, and full of wonder. Inevitably, over time we discover a characteristic that seems inconsistent with the personality we thought we knew. Not that their behavior is inconsistent with who they are, but rather it is what we perceive to be a drawback is simply inconsistent with our image of who they are and/or how we think they should behave.
Every friendship experiences this moment in which we may either choose to rationally discuss the point of contention in an effort to understand their thought process, ignore the disunity between your selves, or objectively respect their difference of opinion. In couple’s relationships it’s the stage immediately following the honeymoon stage. How this phase is handled is pivotal for the longevity of the relationship.
Such conflict is unavoidable especially when it comes to social interaction. Each of us are unique individuals with different life experiences, dreams, fears, concerns, priorities, strengths and weaknesses. However, over time it seems to be part of our human condition that we begin to see negative traits in the person we once admired. When we get to know someone very well, we cease noticing their good qualities by taking those for granted, while placing emphasis on their bad traits. It’s important to realize that the person didn’t change but that your expectations of them were merely incompatible with reality. How you handle this revelation will not only decide the survival of the friendship but also your maturity. Rifts are opportunities for a relationship to grow, after all aren’t we supposed to see the best in people and give everyone the benefit of the doubt?
When we come to know someone better it’s a given that we will also come to know their faults and they will come to know ours too. We should never be surprised when someone behaves counter to our original assessment. These occasions are opportunities to practice charity with acceptance and graciousness. Perhaps over time we may even refrain from future stereotyping preferring to respect each person’s inalienable rights.
Every Thursday is an “Open to the Public” weekly Bid Euchre Tournament held in the Bunker (below the Vets Club, 106 S. Center St.) at 7 p.m. with weekly prizes.
Tonight (Friday) and Saturday is the “The Best Drama Club Show Ever,” performed in the VHS Performing Arts Center at 7:30 p.m. Also tonight is the Hometown Christmas Celebration from 6-9 p.m. and Saturday the Eagles Auxiliary is sponsoring a breakfast with Santa from 8-10 a.m.
Sunday the Versailles museum is offering a Veterans Day program beginning at 2 p.m. with guest speaker Mr. Terry Purke of the Miami Valley Veteran’s Museum and music provided by a local group of Veterans known as the “Tin Snips.” Then from 4-7 p.m. will be the “Open to the Public” Annual Veterans Day Bean Soup Dinner held at the Vets Club Hall.
Monday, (Nov. 12) the Versailles FFA is hosting a Veterans Day meal for veterans and their spouses, spouses of deceased veterans and active duty military, as well as military scheduled to depart and their families. The dinner will be held at 6:30 p.m. in the VHS cafetorium (use door 19) followed by a guest speaker. Please RSVP to Jacob Wuebker at 937-417-8798 or email firstname.lastname@example.org as soon as possible.
Tuesday from 6-7:30 p.m. the Versailles FFA hosts a “Open to the Public” College, Business Career and Military Fair in the VHS cafetorium (use door 19) and Thursday (Nov. 15) the St. Vincent DePaul Ministries hosts a Thanksgiving/Christmas luncheon, held in the St. Denis Church basement, followed with music provided by Dul-C-Daze. Also Thursday is the early registration deadline for those interested in participating in the Ansonia Christmas Tractor Parade to be held Saturday, Dec. 1 at 7 p.m. To register call 937-417-7961 or email email@example.com
Happy belated 85th birthday to Norman Schlecty and Jerry Paulus also birthday wishes to MacKenzie Dabe (5), Chad Feitschans II (4), Henry Uhlenhake (4), Diane Elsas, Pastor Linda Dulin-Moore, Lilli Cusick, Zachary Weaver, Caitlyn Cusick, Jennifer Overholser, Fr. Jim Simons, David Magoteaux, Jessica Griesdorn, Dee Stahl, Lauren Meinke, Maleah Bulcher, Shorty Keller, Carmen Kingrey, Kalyn Justice, Lynn Langston, Karen Kelch, Gene Epperly, Dusty Francis, Shila Magoto, Nina Barga, Marcia Davidson, Nancy (Tom) Subler, Joan Ruschau, Rose Lucas, Kevin Bohman, Janet Garber, Vicky Olwine, Kim Condon, Keith Hartzell, Diliana Miller, Madison Dortsch, Chloe Grilliot, Candy Stump, and Uncle John Magoto as their special day approaches. Anniversary wishes to Caitlin and Tony McNeilan (6), Lori and Jason Hemmelgarn (6), Kelly and Kevin Luthman, Traci and Jesse Doubelaere (11), Penny and Phillip Elmore, Brenda and Terry Mescher (20), Angie and Scott Armstrong (21), Lisa and Joe Rush (22), Holly and Nick Keiser (25), Missy and Brad Francis (28), Sherry and Ed Chenoweth (31), Sue and Joe Knapke (37), Kim and Randy Condon (40), Dee and Brian Monnin (40), Karen and John Davis (42), Marla and Ed Spencer (48), Mary Jo & Ken Voisard (51), Mary Jean and Paul Meyer (53), and Rosemary and Jerry Paulus (62).
Congratulations to Dr. Steve Ruhenkamp and staff of Versailles Vision on the grand opening and ribbon cutting of their new place of business.
Please give your supportive and healing prayers for the many who are dealing with any of life’s countless challenges, and especially for Violet Bensman, Robert Loy, Lewis Stahl, Marge Paulus, Bernie Frantz, Karen Borchers (wrist), Paul Shimp, Beverly Burt, Fr. Ron Haft, Jackson Winner, Jerilyn Monnin, Fr. John White, Kellie Gehret, Shirley Tapp, Becca Pohl Liette, Jane Meier, Dean Kreitzer, Jim Kelch, Scarlet Unrast, Jenni Meyer, John Brandt, Donna Apple, Alice Luthman, Michelle Sherman, Miriam Harman, Patricia Borchers, Bob Miller, Iona Gariety, Loretta Bey, Steve Bey, Aiden Myers, Angie Keiser, Paul Dapore, Rose Mary and Jerry Paulus, Cyril Frantz, Carol Laub, Peggy Borgerding, Earl Gigandet, Ruth Wirrig, Marge Prakel, Mary Batty, Dave Magoto, Norma Magoto, Betty Kremer, Virginia Smith, Mary Huelskamp, Anabelle Subler, Lois Youngker, Barb Goubeaux, Eileen Rahm, Samantha Smith and those not mentioned by name who are recuperating, hospitalized, homebound and/or in need of our prayers.
Heartfelt sympathy is extended to the family and friends of Jack Borgerding (89), also remembering and keeping in our hearts the lives of Joe Best, Bill Broering, Bruce Weber, Noah Swallow, Dustin Barton, Jerome Bey, Sr., Nicholas DeMange, Duane Saintignon, Norma Stammen, Beulah Fine, Ella Benning, Theresa Alexander, Hilda Glynn, Vivian Wintrow, Ron Dirksen, Deloris Pepple, Ottis Gilmore, Jerry Timmerman, Carl Schutz, Phyllis Magoto, Alma Grilliot, Mary Ware, Bob Poly, Rita Baltes, Bob Tebbe, Ethel Mayo, Wayne McGreevy, Edith Richhart, Charles Francis, Florence Smith and all those not mentioned by name as the anniversary of their recent passing nears.
“Find the good in people and ignore the bad, because no one is perfect” ~Unknown
“There are no perfect relationships it’s how you accept the imperfections that make it perfect.” ~Unknown
“Familiarity breeds contempt in the obstinate” ~C. Edwards
Kathy Magoto is a volunteer citizen columnist, who serves The Daily Advocate readers weekly with her Friday Versailles community column. She can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org or at 526-3798. Feel free to contact her with Versailles news and tidbits. Viewpoints expressed in the article are the work of the author. The Daily Advocate does not endorse these viewpoints or the independent activities of the author.