Last weekend was Sweetest Day and even though there are many married couples that celebrate this holiday, it is most popular among those dating and not yet married. This got me thinking about romance and why some people say romance dies after marriage.
Once some women marry, they change their ideas about spending money on a romantic evening out. These women were fine before “his money” became “their money” but with the joint bank account comes new rules for how the money is spent. That’s alright because to every time there is a season and in marriage there are many seasons, and these seasons change where our money is spent.
Marriages are constantly evolving and although it may seem that romance dies, it actually grows into a much deeper intimacy. As romance disappears, love becomes more deeply rooted and overtakes the shallow superficial relationship. I liken the process to planting new grass.
You buy a grass seed mix that will promptly produce grass. Within the mixture there is quick growing grass seed that has a shallow root system but some with a slower rate of growth with deeper roots and, some that is disease and drought resistant.
Just as the perennial rye and blue grass eventually chokes out the annual grass — romantic love yields to the deeply rooted love that doesn’t worry about getting flowers, dinner out, etc. This is the couple that has built a strong and intimate bond in which they support one another in good times and in times of sorrow.
But how else could the love they vowed to one another on their wedding day have been possible? I mean seriously for better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, who can promise such things? In our youth we naively accept the terms and conditions of marriage, but we are too in love and too young to fully grasp the complexities and shortcomings life inevitably bestows. By keeping the author of life and love in our individual story we can be assured that “Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things and endures all things.” (Corinthians 1)
Tonight is the Friends of Hole Field football Drop. If you haven’t purchased your chance to win yet you still have time at the game. Good luck!
The Darke County YMCA of Greenville is offering free weekly classes on preventing or managing diabetes. Classes are every Thursday from 6:15 – 7:30 p.m. from now through Nov. 17. For more information or to get registered, call 548-3777.
Oct. 29 is the annual Versailles Athletic Boosters Dinner/Auction. Doors open at 5:30 and dinner is served at 6:30 p.m. Admission is $20 each or two for $30. Reservation can be made through Cathy Peters at 937/214-2974.
Oct. 30 is the Versailles Eagles Auxiliary breakfast buffet from 8:30 a.m. – 12:30 p,m, with all-you-can-eat sausage, scrambled eggs, hash brown, pancakes, biscuits and gravy, toast, coffee and juice for $7.50 adults and $4 for children 4-10. The Lions Club (St. Denis Church basement) will also have its all-you-can-eat pancake, sausage, scrambled eggs, coffee and juice breakfast from 7:30 a.m. – 12:30 p.m. for $7 adults and $3 children 4-12. Children 3 and under are free at either breakfast. Also Sunday from 2-4 p.m. Versailles will hold Trick or Treat.
Birthday wishes to Nicci Keiser, Carolyn Smith, Kathy Hoelscher, Mariah Poeppelman, Shyann McKenna, Kay Dapore, Megan Subler, Pat Crowell, Karen Burt, Cheryl Fine, Eric Behlke, Erin Horst, Sara Lester, Danielle Myers, Kevin Crawford, Pat Hubler, Jeanine Davidson, Donna Monnin, Connie McEldowney, Susan Kunk, Ginger Brubaker, Tom Donnelly, Art Boring, Dale Borchers, Sharon Monnin, Lela Munn, Hillary Holzapfel, Jordan Lewis, Ericka Berman, Eli Cornett, and Carley Holzapfel, as their birthdays approach as well as, anniversary wishes to Emily and Rick Clark (12), Penny and Chad Treon (14), Tara and Dan George (17), Carly and Josh Bolin (21), Sol and Joe Bulcher (24), Vicki and Ed Ruhe (27), Angie and Matt Arnold (31), Reyna and Jerry Shardo (34), Karen and John Shardo (36), Ruth and Dick Pierron (50), and Linda and Dick Kinninger (53).
Please give your supportive and healing prayers for the many who are dealing with any of life’s countless challenges, and especially for Kathy Wespiser (knee surgery), Angie Keiser, Mary Barga, Zane Francis, Dan Norris, Theresa Turner, Al Bliss, Regina Fischer, Wilma Didier, Anabelle Subler, Steve Grilliot, Lavern Brunswick, Jeanette Simons, Julia Billenstein, Fr. John White, Glenn Monnin, Merilyn Borchers, Lewis Didier, Alan Stammen, Cameron Magoto, Lewis May, Connie (Baltes) Lechleiter, Linda Henry, Jan Turner, Pete Ecabert, Levadia Barga, Susan Crocker, Patty Jenkinson, Paul Cordonnier, Jack Borgerding, Dan Monnin, Linda Wilson, Lois Youngker, Sam Yagle, Barb Goubeaux, Jan Turner, David Zumberger, Brian Voisard, Cyril Frantz, Michelle Ullom, John Davis, Eileen Rahm, Cyril Voisard, Barb Agne, Samantha Smith, and all those not mentioned by name who are ill, suffering, hospitalized or homebound.
Heartfelt sympathy to the family and friends of Larry Leffel (70), Joan Pleiman ( 77), and Cliff Wise (90) also remembering the lives of David Lee Peck, Norma Jean Magoto, Robert Buschur, Leroy Murphy, Craig and Doug Meier, Dan Luthman, Opal Subler, Jerry Heitkamp, Urban Ratterman and all those not mentioned by name as the anniversary of their recently passing nears.
“Marriage Takes Three: You, me and He.” ~C. Edwards
“True love doesn’t have a happy ending, true love has no ending” ~Unknown
“Being someone’s first love may be great, but to be their last is beyond perfect.” ~Unknown
Kathy Magoto is a volunteer citizen columnist, who serves The Daily Advocate readers weekly with her weekly Versailles community column. She can be reached at email@example.com or at 526-3798. Feel free to contact her with Versailles news and tidbits. Viewpoints expressed in the article are the work of the author. The Daily Advocate does not endorse these viewpoints or the independent activities of the author.