Versailles News: Disagreements don’t need to become arguments


By Kathy Magoto



Disagreements occur from time to time and are a part of life. Although disagreements are uncomfortable they are inevitable and often necessary to keep us on the correct path.

Mishandled disagreements are capable of destroying relationships if we do not listen and speak with love. Sometimes the truth is hurtful but must be said (with kindness and love) such as when a parent or sibling points out the error of a family member’s thinking or behavior. Eventually we all experience the opposition of our family and/or friends. Conflicts should be treated respectfully by listening with love, respecting others and their opinions, responding carefully and remaining calm.

Sometimes our disagreements arise when we pridefully think we know better because we are controlling and used to having everything done our way. Unfortunately most of the time we are unaware when our pride steps in, however we should question ourselves when we have strong feelings concerning a disagreement. Caution is always advised to avoid alienating others, especially when the disagreement has been taken personally.

If we feel betrayed by a best friend or spouse we often retaliate with anger and bitterness while our sensibility flies out the window. We might allow our feelings to control us, which is never a good idea unless you like feeling foolish or apologizing. We would do well to remember our feelings are as changeable as the weather and therefore cannot be trusted.

Somewhere I read some wise advice worth sharing. If you disagree in a way that is unkind or impatient, you’re in the wrong. If your disagreement fuels jealousy or pride, you’re wrong. If you’re bull-headed and refuse to be a listener, then you’re demanding your own way. If you get angry or hold a grudge over a disagreement, you’re wrong, even if you’re right. If you get upset when someone else is proven to be right, you’re doubly wrong. And if you disagree with people and allow it to cause you to lose your temper or faith you’re wrong even if you’re right. But if you disagree in a way that is kind, patient, humble, open-minded, forgiving, and understanding, you’re right even if you’re wrong.

I’m sure this is not infallible but I regard it as a pretty wise self-evaluation when disputes occur.

Upcoming events:

Saturday The Versailles Marching Band hosts their annual Band Invitational beginning at 5 p.m. Gates open at 4:30 pm.

Saturday, Orville Bohman will host karaoke downstairs at the Versailles Vet’s Club (bunker) beginning at 8:30 p.m.

Sunday, the CYO is holding a chicken dinner fundraiser at the old middle school building (St. Denis) from 11 a.m.– 1 p.m. Call Rich Schwieterman at (937) 621-0433 for more information.

Oct. 11, The Versailles K of C’s are hosting a pork loin dinner from 11 a.m. – 1 p.m. at the K of C Hall. Call Roger Schlater at 526-9767 for advanced tickets. Also next Sunday, the American Legion Auxiliary holds its chicken fry from 4-6 p.m. at the Vets Club.

Congratulations to VHS Homecoming’s royal couple: Kristin Langston, daughter for Cindy and Jeff and Isaac Buschur, son of Linda and Jake. Happy birthday to newborn Allison Grace Horst, who is the daughter of Erin and Keith Horst, also happy birthday wishes to Darlene Meyer, Iona Gariety (85), Gloria Quinter, Linda Grogean, Pam Elifritz, Sandy McClurg, Carolyn Phelan, Susan Berg, Shiela Liette, Bob Robinson, Brenda McCoy, Destiney Jenkinson, Kevin Green, Phillip Pierre, Heather Bergman, Amy Harman, Lisa Vallandingham, Steve Bey, Kate Vulgamore, Joseph Henniger, Collin Peters, Larry Reed, Danielle Clack, Janielle Crickmore, and Lauren Hartzell as their birthdays approach as well as, anniversary wishes to Jesse and Jason Langenkamp (1), Billie Jo and Jerry Gasquez (1), Jill and Jason Smith (9), Linda and Alan May (9), Lacy and Steve Thobe, Eileen and Doug Floan (15), Missy and Jeremy Monnin (18), Michelle and Mark Pleiman (21), Donna and Chris Tebbe (22), Karen and Doug Koverman (26), Jill and Ken Moorman (29), Connie and Gene Harshbarger (35), Sharon and Jim Siders (38), Robin and Norm Seubert (40), Bonnie and Larry Barga (42), Nancy and Joe Taylor (43).

Healing prayers and get well wishes to Eileen Rahm, Michelle McClure, Judy Yoder, Dan Trostel, Dave Gibson, Boots Breaden, Robert Longenecker, Karen Coverstone, Rita Wuebker, Yvonne Ridenour, Wayne Pittsenbarger, John Klipstine, Arthur Curtis, Michelle Ullom, Harold Langston Sr., Jack Munn, Thelma Schultz, James Youngker, Isabella Yakos, Brian Voisard, Barb and Jon Agne, Samantha Smith and all those dealing with life’s challenges, as well the hospitalized or home-bound in need of our prayers but not mentioned by name.

Sincere sympathy to the family and friends of Charlie Koch (50), Mary Helen Heisey (77), Raymond Keller (84), and Ruth Hinker (88) also remembering the lives of Duane Barga, Barb Frisez, Jay Long Sr., Marcia Bruner, Martha Rosengarten, Jim Paulus, Doris Schafer, Jack DeLaet, Rally Shiverdecker, Joann Hale, Keith Smith, Lucille Alexander, Ruth Oehrtman, Delores Henry, Jim Niekamp, Chalmer Mangen, Geraldine Black, Joe Baugher, Fred Bohman, Shawn Dysert, Connie Henry, Alvin Christman and all those not mentioned by name as the anniversary of their recently passing.

“Disagreements can cumulate personal growth.” ~C. Edwards

“Disagreement is something normal.” ~Dalai Lama

“To disagree one doesn’t have to be disagreeable” ~Barry Goldwater

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By Kathy Magoto

Kathy Magoto is a volunteer citizen columnist, who serves The Daily Advocate readers weekly with her weekly Versailles community column. She can be reached at magmon1@embarqmail.com or at 526-3798. Feel free to contact her with Versailles news and tidbits. Viewpoints expressed in the article are the work of the author. The Daily Advocate does not endorse these viewpoints or the independent activities of the author.

Kathy Magoto is a volunteer citizen columnist, who serves The Daily Advocate readers weekly with her weekly Versailles community column. She can be reached at magmon1@embarqmail.com or at 526-3798. Feel free to contact her with Versailles news and tidbits. Viewpoints expressed in the article are the work of the author. The Daily Advocate does not endorse these viewpoints or the independent activities of the author.