By Kathy Magoto
Occasionally I find myself disagreeable for the sport of it all, which I “lovingly” refer to as “sparring.” And as long as the conversation maintains a respectable tone I have never seen the harm in drawing out the person’s differences, thereby learning more about the people and possibly gaining a new point of view.
Perhaps it appears I’d like to be right, but that’s not likely since I know far too little about a great many things. However when I spar I’m fascinated with the other person’s reasoning and hoping to understand their perspective, which may or may not validate my position.
Normally when a legitimate disagreement between two people occurs no one emerges the clear winner. After all it’s a matter of two individual people with distinctive perspectives and differing opinions based on their sole experiences. We’ve all been involved in disagreements, be it emotional, spiritual or physical and most often we seek the assistance or advice of others. If these are business problems an arbitrator or mediator can provide some assistance in maintaining a fair and equitable dialogue between both parties. But when the dispute is between a couple the average person is not capable of helping nor is it in their best interest to get in the middle.
As couples when we share our personal strife with friends we are not really seeking advice but rather we are really requesting support and encouragement. We are looking for a sounding board, a sympathetic ear or in rare instances someone who can substantiate our difficulties. We are not able to transfer our ownership or responsibility to anyone else.
Once we realize that only we are responsible for our actions we can move towards a resolution, although some find it easier to do nothing thereby playing the victim. But for the majority of us we look towards a positive outcome, which usually involves calmness, clear-headed communication, compromise and collaboration.
Throughout life we have the opportunity to compromise; such as what movie to watch or what ingredients to order on the family pizza. Compromise allows us to be gracious and charitable towards others and teaches us sacrifice and selflessness. Sadly today, many of us have lost the ability to compromise and instead we’ll order two movies watching them independently and order a pizza divided in fourths to accommodate each person’s toppings preferences. A relationship that acknowledges the “value of” and “has the ability to” compromise has the tools necessary to endure disagreements.
Tonight the Darke County Relay for Life begins with opening ceremonies at 6 p.m. at Heritage Park. Darke County VFWs and American Legions will be on hand for this event to raise awareness and money to be utilized in the Darke County for those combating cancer. There is also delicious food available such as grilled marinated tenderloins, walking tacos, burgers, shredded chicken, etc. . All booths are operated by Relay teams from every town in Darke County and most of all remember all proceeds benefit our friends, family and neighbors battling cancer.
Saturday, North Star picnic will hold their annual Cruise-In Car Show from 6-9 p.m. and Renegade will be performing from 8-11:30 p.m. Sunday, the 18th Annual Angel Run 5k starts at 9 a.m., with registration one hour before the race. The parade is at 2 pm followed by an antique tractor show 2 to 6 p.m. and a talent show from 5-6:30 p.m.
Mark your calendar for the Library Book Sale on July 23 from noon until 7 p.m., an upcoming Webster United Methodist Annual “Ice Cream Social” on July 26 from 4:30 – 7 p.m. and a Community Pool Party on July 26 from 5:30-8:30 p.m. at the Versailles Swimming Pool.
A special thanks to those who make the Community meal possible every Wednesday from 5-6:30 p.m. in the Trinity Lutheran Church basement. Thanks also to the members of the Towne and Country Players for providing another summer of entertainment and the members of the Versailles Museum for the many activities they provide.
Birthday wishes to Ray Simon, Diane Magoteaux, Nate Magoto, Samantha Smith, Lexi Rhoades, Julia Billenstein, Keith Rawlins, Mark Rhoades, Steve Baker, Crissa Heuing, Sara Mincer, Tom Pierron, Tom Sanderson, Kay Sanders, Janice York, Stephanie Adkins, Dan Hoening, Tom Mumaw, Devin Langston, Darlene Monnin, Susan “Bug” Mangen, Terri O’Brien, Kim Hartzell, Chell Graves, Barb Hart, B.J. Baker, Tim Platt, Finley Schmitmeyer, Jane Evans, Gina Wolfe, Nikia Pierre, Michelle McClure, Austin James, Jon Baker, Devin Langston, Chelsea McGlinch, Ayla Bartram, Megan Rue, Jeff Monnin, Cindy Eilerman, Ron Poling, Doris Monnin and Denise Good as their birthdays approach as well as, anniversary wishes Brittany and Chris Elsas (1), Amy and Mike Denlinger, (9), Julie and Jerry Francis (16), Therese and Jeff Borchers (36) Suzanne and Jim Wakefield (51), Sheila and Jim Didier (51), Norma Jean and John Kaiser (60), and Phyliss and Bud Overholser (63).
Healing prayers and get well wishes to the John Klipstine, Evelyn Bernholt, Juanita Gerling, Marilyn Swallow, Freda Banks, John Weidener, Catherine Brunswick, Wayne Pittsenbarger, Thelma Schultz, Madeline Rickett, Kathy and Tom Hamilton, Andrew Kunk, Michelle Ullom, Kyle Rutschilling, Isabella Yakos, Lisa Coate, Brian Voisard, Barb and Jon Agne, Mary Wehneman and all those dealing with life’s challenges, as well the hospitalized or homebound in need of our prayers but not mentioned by name.
Sincere sympathy to the family and friends of Paul Peters, Joann Utz, Vernon Hilgefort, Waldo Bartram, Rose Ann Grilliot, Troy Burt, and Alice Argabright, also remembering the lives of Virginia Rhoades, Pat Rindler, Marvin Monnin, Kenneth Monnin, Jack Kaiser, Norma Fay Knick, Jerome Cain, Bob Byram, Betty McEldowney, Paul Oehrtman, Keith Batty, Mary and Stanley Hines, Joan Clack, Ethan Pohl, Laurene Drees, Yewell Kindred, Marion Cox, Milton Beal, Noel Loxley, Rosella Monnin, Ursula Overholser, Bob Pitsenbarger, Ruth Francis, Larry Subler, Ralph Chappie, Doc Francis and all those not mentioned by name as the anniversary of their recently passing.
“Compromise, if not the spice of life, is its solidity. It is what makes nations great and marriages happy.” ~Unknown
“Our throw away mentality has greatly weakened our desire and ability to compromise” ~C. Edwards
“A husband and a wife must function like two wings on the same bird. They must work together or the marriage will never get off the ground.” ~Unknown